More gems from Dr Ellen Weber, who has been writing up on how using language that focuses on what we can do rather than on we think we can’t, triggers brain mechanisms that help us solve problems. If we use worry-based language like ‘I don’t have the time….’, ‘Nobody’s going to help me…..’, or ‘It’s never been done before…..’ then we are effectively slamming the brakes on our ability to overcome challenges. That, in turn, keeps us from desirable states allied to excitement and satisfaction. Instead we will be heading straight for emotions associated with frustration and stress. And that is not emotionally intelligent.
When we are working with emotional intelligence, focusing on what we can do right now rather than in some mythical, worry-free, future, we are always going to be using words like ‘I’d like to….’, ‘I could….’, ‘I’m going to find a way to….’ rather than words like ‘never’, ‘nobody’, ‘can’t’ or ‘won’t’. Phrases in the first set keep us in the here and now and focused on the possible. While worry-based language keeps us in the there-and-then, gazing at the impossible.
How does Bodymind react in either case? If you are going for it then you are going to experience a release of serotonin – a mood booster. Taken in tandem with other chemical releases, you will be provided with the energy and concentration you need to sustain your efforts. If you have gone down the other route then your emotions are blocked and Bodymind will, eventually, be forced to respond by releasing ‘stress’ chemicals associated with the crisis alert. The effect of cortisol, in particular, will be to shut down the thinking centres in the pre-frontal lobes. And that will leave you worse off than before in terms of solving those problems.
There is an enormous amount of research coming out at the moment, mostly in the USA, which shows precisely how the brain works to keep us in a high-performance state when we align the way we think with Bodymind intelligence. And how non-alignment leads to so-called ‘stress’ and disease states. I will be coming back to some of that research – and what it tells us about personal fulfilment – over the next few posts.