Reclaiming your personal power

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If you could do with some more personal power than you have now then here are some ideas on how to to about getting it.

Stop procrastinating

Work on developing your personal power starts today. That’s right – today. Even if you are reading this late at night do ONE thing I am asking you to do before you go to bed. Then follow that up by doing one new action every day. Don’t let up – ever.   

Distinguish between situations and experiences you can’t change and the behaviours that you can

You can’t change other people, the rules of the system, or bad things that have happened to you in the past. You may have very limited influence over your partner, your family, your job or your college. So don’t waste time thinking about it. Instead focus on changing the things you do.

Don’t waste time trying to change the way you think

As I have before written, there is very little evidence that Cognitive Therapy works. Changing your beliefs makes no difference to what you do. It is effort, action and persistence that makes a difference. Oh – and affirmations don’t work either. Telling yourself ten times a day that you are a wonderful person when there is little real evidence for that is a waste of time.

Start with taking the smaller risks first and then work up

If you have spent a long time denying, or giving away your personal power to others, your confidence may be low. Increase it by taking on the small risks initially. For example, practice speaking up to people close to you first, before taking on your real enemies. Or rewrite your CV and start looking for that new position now.

Break some habits

This is one of the easier ones to do and it is amazingly easy to free up your energy by breaking up trivial habits. That could include changing the way you dress, giving up smoking (yes – that IS easy to do!), or going back to the gym.

Develop your passion and build mastery

You are a person of unique gifts, talents, insight and creativity. It doesn’t matter at all whether you are another Sherlock Holmes, a Saint, a people-person, or someone who has a fascination with a particular hobby. You have work to do that no one else can do. Get going on it now.

6 thoughts on “Reclaiming your personal power

  1. Helen February 12, 2008 / 10:27 am

    Interesting you say breaking habits is easy to do. I can change habit 1, habit 2, habit 3 etc., by which time I’ve lost focus on habit 1, and so spend a lot of energy going round in circles!
    Interested in how to maintain change?

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  2. John Eaton February 13, 2008 / 10:14 am

    Hi Helen
    If you’d like to give me 2/3 specific examples of habits that ‘relapse’, I would be happy to write something about this topic on the blog. John

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  3. Helen February 13, 2008 / 5:32 pm

    Hi John,
    Re How to maintain change? Specific examples of habits that ‘relapse’ when I move on to focus on changing other habits…
    1. Going to bed earlier!
    2. Using less force when talking so not straining my voice (friends ‘relapse’ on habits like shouting at kids)
    3. Focusing on one thing at a time rather than having 101 things on the go!

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  4. Helen February 13, 2008 / 5:32 pm

    Hi John,
    Re How to maintain change? Specific examples of habits that ‘relapse’ when I move on to focus on changing other habits…
    1. Going to bed earlier!
    2. Using less force when talking so not straining my voice (friends ‘relapse’ on habits like shouting at kids)
    3. Focusing on one thing at a time rather than having 101 things on the go!

    Like

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