9 Habits of Resilient People (No. 6)

This is the sixth in a series of articles on resilience.

The sixth habit is:

Resilient people practice self-renewal.

By self-renewal I mean that resilient people are never satisfied with the status quo; they are always looking for new horizons. Another way of putting this is that resilient people are continually re-inventing themselves.

Many of you reading this article may recall someone you know who mysteriously gave up their lucrative job in banking, or law, or in industry and went on a trip round the world (or went on a retreat in India, or built a house, or started a charity, or retrained as a teacher, etc.). I can guarantee you that that person is well-equipped to handle life’s disasters. For one thing they have shown already is that they are able to give up their attachments and start over again.

People who are attached to comfort and security and possessions, fear change. Because they are attached to the Ego: the self that identifies with what it thinks it knows. So when upheavals come around: job loss, financial disaster, losing someone close, etc. they have a breakdown. Resilient people will first deal with their emotional distress before moving on to the next stage on life’s way.

If you wish to develop greater resilience develop the twin habits of self-denial and self-renewal. You can start by giving up something that you have become attached to. That could be a small habit or daily routine that doesn’t serve you any more. Then after that you can identify that new skill you want to learn, or new course, or start planning for that trip round the world…..

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