This is the seventh in a series of articles on resilience.
The seventh habit is: Resilient people spend time with resilient people
In article No. 4 in this series I mentioned that resilient people actively ask for help when they need it. The people they ask will most likely be people who are as resilient as themselves. For who better to ask than someone who knows how to deal with a crisis? For that reason resilient people will notice resilience in other people and will recruit them to their network of friends and supporters.!– /wp:paragraph –>
However, there is a deeper reason for this trait: it is called modelling. One way in which human beings acquire life-skills is to observe and imitate the traits we observe in other people as we grow up. Our parents will, in most cases, be the first to be modelled. Then we will go on to do the same job on our teachers, mentors and other children we admire. Many of us will also model people we have never met: these are the people we ‘meet’ in books, films and on TV. In fact most of the habits I have described in this series of articles will be things we have learned and acquired from people we met on the stages of life’s way. Some of those people, especially if they recognise resilience in us, will become partners, friends and colleagues.
So if you thought that there was a habit in one of these articles that you don’t have yourself but would like to know more about then find someone who has it – and observe them closely. Failing that you could always find a coach or a therapist who can teach it to you.